The first week of 2018 is almost coming to a close, how are you feeling?
Have you read through the influx of goal/intention-setting articles? Or perhaps you’ve gotten a taste of the posts that argue against setting any sort of new year’s goals, why not just get started today?
Many of us wake up on January 1 with all of these hopes, dreams, expectations, and perhaps even a little anxiety. We want to accomplish so much this year, and we have to get it all started right now.
Especially after the 2017 many of us experienced, we might feel even more motivated to make sure 2018 is…better? Less heavy? Anything but what 2017 was like?
And don’t even get me started on the whole process of planning out the year. That can be an overwhelming task in and of itself. We want to accomplish these goals, but how can we make sure we achieve them if we don’t map out the entire year?
Look, I’m definitely not saying there is anything wrong with goal-setting, intention-setting, and planning for the year ahead. I’ve done it myself for 2018. But it took a LOT of work on my end to not let myself get too caught up in the process of it all.
But even with that extra work, I still look back on this first week of January and can’t help but feel a bit overwhelmed. Am I on track with my goals? Am I living true to my intentions? Am I honouring my word for the year?
Girl…it’s been a week. And this is also my reminder to you. It’s been a week. Sure, you can revisit your goals and intentions and all that, but don’t get overwhelmed if you haven’t started making immediate progress on every single one.
One of my own goals for 2018 was to keep up with my goal of 10k+ steps a day. We’ve been going through a bit of a deep freeze here, so walking outside as much as I’ve wanted to definitely hasn’t happened. And you know what? That’s okay.
A year has 52 weeks. That’s 8,736 hours or 524,160 minutes. That’s a lot of time. You have plenty of time.
And to help ensure that you don’t fall down the rabbit hole of just feeling overwhelmed and not making any progress, I’ve got a few tips for you!
Stay in your lane
The comparison trap is real, and it can be debilitating if you let it. You have your own work to do, and that will take up more than enough of your time. Don’t fall into the habit of comparing yourself to the highlight reel that is social media. 99% of the time, that’s not real life.
Especially with social media, it is so easy to feel like you’re not making as much progress as you feel like you should be. Consistency + determination x preseverence = results. It’s not about what you do today, but more about what you do tomorrow, and the day after that, and the day after that.
Do the thing you need the most to take care of yourself
If you don’t feel good about yourself, those goals and intentions aren’t going to get anywhere. So take as many baths as you need to, schedule that doctor’s appointment to make sure everything is okay healthwise, see the therapist you’ve been meaning to see. Whatever you consider self-care, be sure to incorporate more of it into your routine during the start of the new year.
Break it down
Each week, I’m setting aside 30min-1hr of my day to break down what I want to accomplish for the week ahead. How do I want to feel each day? What specific thing do I want to accomplish? Write it down. I recently started using Danielle Laporte’s Desire Map Planner and I am loving it so far. But, whatever works for you is going to be what keeps you using it, so find it, and stick with it!
Above all, practice self-compassion always
Life will never go according to plan, but that’s the beauty of it in a way. The most important thing to remember throughout 2018 is to be kind to yourself. Push yourself to reach those goals, hire a coach/trainer, have a friend hold you accountable. Do what you need to do to help set yourself up for achieving those goals and intentions for the year. But always come at it from a place of self-compassion. Berating and talking down to yourself when something doesn’t work (slept in instead of going to the gym, ate more cookies than you wanted to after dinner, etc.) will not help.